Ideas to Help Children Feel Safe, Loved, and Seen

written by Janie Brits, Social Worker at Erongo Social Services

It has become very difficult in the current global and also local environment of the Erongo region where parents and children faces many adversities and the focus is on constant performance and comparison with others, to create an environment where children feel safe, loved, and seen, essential for their emotional and psychological development. The following ideas provide practical approaches for parents, educators, and caregivers to nurture these foundational feelings in children.

Fostering Safety

• Maintain Consistent Routines: Children thrive on predictability. Establish regular meal times, bedtime routines, and daily schedules to create a sense of stability.

• Provide Clear Boundaries: Set age-appropriate rules and expectations. Consistent boundaries help children understand what is expected and what is acceptable, which reduces anxiety.

• Offer Reassurance: When children are scared or uncertain, validate their feelings and reassure them with comforting words and physical affection.

• Encourage Open Communication: Let children know they can talk to you about anything without fear of judgment or punishment.

• Create Safe Spaces: Designate areas at home or in the classroom where children can retreat to relax or calm down when overwhelmed.

Showing Love

• Express Affection Frequently: Hugs, kisses, and kind words help children understand they are loved unconditionally.

• Spend Quality Time Together: Engage in activities your child enjoys, such as reading, playing games, or simply talking.

• Celebrate Achievements: Praise both big and small accomplishments, focusing on effort and progress rather than just results.

• Practice Active Listening: Pay close attention when your child speaks, showing genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings.

• Use Positive Reinforcement: Recognise good behaviour and kindness to reinforce a loving environment.

Helping Children Feel Seen

• Respect Individuality: Acknowledge and celebrate your child’s unique interests, talents, and personality.

• Empower Decision-Making: Allow children to make choices about their activities, clothes, or meals, fostering a sense of autonomy.

• Include Their Opinions: Invite children to share their thoughts when making family or classroom decisions, demonstrating that their voice matters.

• Recognise Their Feelings: Validate emotions by naming them (“You seem sad today”) and offering support without dismissing or minimising their experiences.

• Document Memories: Display their artwork, photos, or achievements in the home to show that what they do is valued and remembered.

Conclusion

By integrating these ideas into daily interactions, adults can help children feel safe, loved, and seen. This not only supports their emotional well-being but also lays the foundation for resilience, confidence, and healthy relationships throughout life.

We at ess are passionate about this topic and can assist parents and children in their quest to create healthy relationships.

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