Parenting With Purpose: Why Mindful Parenting Matters

• written by Janie Brits, Social Worker at Erongo Social Services

In my work as a play therapist, one observation continues to leave me astounded: when I ask parents what the word parenting means to them, many haven’t really thought about it.Does that mean we’re comfortable stepping into one of life’s most important roles without ever truly defining it?

It’s a sobering thought — and a risky one.

Just like no one becomes a world-class musician the moment they pick up a guitar, no one becomes a competent parent simply by having a child. Parenting is a skill. One that needs to be practised, reflected on, and, often, one that requires support — sometimes even professional help.

From Trial and Error to Intentional Parenting

It was this very real need to better equip parents that led me on a journey of research and reflection. Along the way, I encountered a transformative approach: mindful parenting. This theory has become a powerful cornerstone of my practice, and I believe it’s one of the most effective ways to build strong, lasting relationships between parents and children — and more importantly, to raise children who grow into responsible, self-sufficient adults.

Because yes — raising a responsible adult should be the primary goal of parenting.

That may come as a surprise. Many parents believe their role is to keep their child constantly happy, shield them from every possible discomfort, or provide all the things they never had growing up. But here’s the truth:If we do everything for our children, we’re not preparing them for life — we’re protecting them from it.

Parenting, ultimately, should work itself out of a job. By the time a child reaches 18 — legally an adult in Namibia — they should be able to navigate the world with confidence, compassion, and accountability.

What Is Mindful Parenting?

Mindful parenting shifts the focus from control to connection. It’s about being present, intentional, and emotionally attuned in how we relate to our children.

Some key elements of mindful parenting include:

• Relationship power over authority power – Moving from "because I said so" to building mutual respect.

• Mentorship over direction – Becoming a guide rather than a commander.

• Values-driven parenting – Teaching children to think, not just obey.

• Mindful communication and listening – Slowing down and being fully present in moments of connection.

• Intentional relationship-building – Prioritizing the bond, not just the behaviour.

  
  

As I often tell parents in sessions: I wish I had known about this approach when raising my own children. It could have saved us all many tears, frustrations, and missed moments of understanding.

You Don't Have to Do It Alone

Parenting was never meant to be a solo act or something you “just figure out.” It’s a journey — and one that becomes less overwhelming when you’re empowered with the right tools.

If this resonates with you, I invite you to book a session. In a calm, accepting space, we’ll unpack what mindful parenting can look like in your unique family dynamic. You can learn to become the kind of parent you wish you had growing up — and in doing so, give your child the foundation they truly need.

Let’s move away from trial-and-error parenting and into intentional, empowered parenting.

Your child is counting on you to break cycles and build something better.

To schedule an appointment with Janie Brits, contact us at +264 81 300 0520 or admin@ess.com.na